As we were conversing on this topic, I saw first hand how the devil really has a hold over this person. The conversation went as followed:
It started about marriage and how the people today do not take the responsibility of being married serious and how people today will get married and not be willing to give up their old habits to make the marriage work out basically not wanting to make sacrifices for their spouses and then the couple would then get an divorce for silly reasons like money, no sex, and many other things. John(Not my co-workers real name), then says quote “Yes and those are the reasons why I will never get married. My old lady (this is what he calls the mother of his kids) knows I love her and my kids because I show her affection even though we are not together.” I said well if you love her why not get married to her? His response was “I love her like a friend not a wife, but as long as my kids think that I love her they would have the idea I love her in that way.” My response to that was well you should be careful with doing that children today are very observant and can tell if their dad loves their mom or not. Especially in situation like yours where it is the complete opposite where a guy may not like the mother of his kids at all. However both the father and mother pretends they love each other and the kids catch on later on.
His response was pretty childish to say quote “Well a guy who is able to the lie going for years that and keep it going a while I am not mad at him.” But I say to him John you know that you are lying to your kids right? He denies it,but I respond; saying you are lying to them because if you do not love your kids mother yet you mentioned earlier that you two pretend to love your each other in front of them. Then you are lying to them, John says that its just a little lie. My response was their is no such thing as a little lie a lie is a lie. And, that could be damaging to your children by them finding out you are lying to them. I said can you really sleep at night knowing the fact you lie to your kids. He says yes soundly, I say well you should never get mad if your kids lie to you.
Ever since I became a Christian I encountered so many people, who finds it ok to lie their kids. Haves me to think that they never heard from Gods word in Proverbs 22:6
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.“Pro 22:6
Which means for a child to develop good habits they must be taught these good habits (like teaching them not to lie) while they are still young, so they wont develop bad habits when they grow older like lying which could lead to worse habits later on.
Now also to note the 9th Commandment is “thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor” which means not to lie.
So by the parents lying to there kids, they are therefore sinning against God and his law, and it also means that they are teaching there own kids how to break Gods commandments as well, by the parents lying to them. Which means the kids wont find anything wrong with lying to their own kids when they get older, which keeps the endless cycle of lying going.
Also in Romans 6:23 it says for the wages of sin is death.
Now the parent who does not know this they are fine because God is not going to punish those who does not fully understand his laws however James 4:17 it says
“Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.” James 4:17
So those who know full well that what they are doing is wrong. They will suffer the punishment and wrath of God at judgement
Even Jesus speaks about how people should not commit a sin against a child in Matthew 18:6
“But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.” Matthew 18:6
To all parent who read this I am not judging you in any way and it does not matter of you are religious or not. To lie to your kids wrong, and should not be accept in any house hold.
This includes telling your kids Santa Claus comes to bring them gifts every years for the Christmas when its the parents who buys the gifts in the first place Also the holiday known as christmas is a satanic holiday if you want to know more about this please look at my christmas video here
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